alex, 31
Trans
About
Makes field recordings of quiet places. Will absolutely tell you about microphones. Soft hands, loud opinions on reverb.
Why we made it (and what we won't do)
These aren't extras. They're what “built for us” actually looks like.
01
Ask first, every time
No one drops an image in your chat uninvited. Senders ask; you grant or decline. A decline starts a cooldown, so they can't just keep asking. Not a setting you switch on. It's how the app works. Full stop.
02
Not a numbers game
You came here to meet someone, not to rack up likes. So there's no infinite deck, no slot machine, nothing nudging you to keep swiping. Every screen is built to slow that down.
03
Safe because we've needed it
We know what it can cost to be outed. So privacy isn't a switch you have to find. It's built in from day one. Identity data encrypted, screenshots blocked, your real name never shown.
04
Be decent, rise
How you treat people shapes where you show up. There's no public score, no callout. Just a quiet system that keeps the room kind and makes the good-faith people easier to find.
05
Reply before you collect
Hold three open matches at a time; past that, the deck pauses until you write back. Hoarding likes was never the same thing as dating.
06
Every identity, centred
Trans, non-binary, ace, pan, demi, fluid, neurodivergent: your own words for yourself sit at the centre of how matching works, right up front, not something you have to dig for.
07
By us, for us. Full stop.
Built by queer people, not a diversity tab on a straight app. Every decision starts with one question: does this actually serve our community?
Wear your colours. Or don't.
Your profile, in your colours.
Pick a flag and it tints your profile. Yours only, never the whole app. Trans, non-binary, bi, lesbian, ace, pan, or nothing at all. The app stays calm; you get to be loud. Your call, every time.
Pick yours to see it live →
Your colours
alex
Optional. The app stays calm. These colours only ever touch your profile. Wear them loud or leave them off.
Trans
Non-binary
Bisexual
Lesbian
Pan
Asexual
None
What's said here, stays here
No screenshots. No outing. Yours.
Chats can't be captured, your identity data is encrypted, and your legal name is never shown to anyone. For a lot of us, privacy was never optional. We built it in from the start, not as a switch you have to go looking for.
How we keep each other safe →blake
✓ Photo sharing enabled
Hiking mainly. I work in landscape design so it's basically professional research8:43 PM
That's such a good job justification. “I have to be outside, it's my career” 8:48 PM
Exactly. How did the music actually start for you?8:53 PM
Started on guitar as a kid, picked up piano later. Now I write things and rarely finish them9:03 PM
I want to hear one of the unfinished ones9:08 PM
Maybe when I've finished one I'll use it as leverage to share the bad ones first9:13 PM
Message…
Ask first. Every time.
No image drops in uninvited. Ever.
Someone wants to send you a photo, they ask first. If you say no, a cooldown starts, and they can't just try again. No toggle to find. No permission to revoke. That's just how it works.
Always opt-in. Never a surprise.